Five Steps Needed to be Spoiled by God

"But whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease without fear of harm." Proverbs 1:33

God wants his children to always feel calm, cool, collected. The strong winds shouldn't effect us, we should only feel a reassuring breeze from the heavens.

God wants you to feel safe in His arms.

God wants you to be at ease in this lifetime and for always.

God wants you to be FEARLESS in the face of dangerous encounters.

God wants nothing and no one to harm you.

God wants to equip you with bulletproof, enemy repellent skin. He wants you to know in Him you will always have a force field of grace and heavenly favor.

So you're saying, all of that sounds nice but I don't feel like I have that. Where is God when I need Him? I pray almost every night and I get up with unanswered prayers. People get on my nerves and life is just not fair! I have been patient and I have waited on the Lord. Maybe He doesn't want to bless me. Maybe He just likes Susan or Ricky better than me.


Well I'm here to tell you that God does not favor one child over the other. He is not a human wrapped in fleshy ulterior motives. He is God Almighty and He is delighted when His children call on Him regardless of what they are going through. He sees the heart and responds.

Here are a few examples from the Holy text of people who were considered doomed and forgotten by God but never turned their back on Him.

Joseph - was betrayed by his brothers and sold into slavery and thrown into prison. He left a good home with a loving father to a cold lonely prison cell in a foreign land. That had to be a rough time. Still Joseph looked to God and trusted him. God answered by exalting him to the second highest position in Egypt as well as deeming him and his people favorable in a foreign land. ( Read the later part of Genesis starting at Chapter 37 for reference)

Daniel - Did Daniel whine and complain when he had to stand against a nation that was against the God he served? Did he ask God why me when he was thrown in the lions den? No he faced the heart troubling and life threatening situation head on. He trusted that God would rescue him, keep him safe and protect him from all harm. That's what God did. He shut the mouths of the lions and when his enemies where thrown in the same den he opened their mouths to devour a hearty meal. Look at God. ( Read Daniel 6)

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego- who can forget the three Hebrew boys filled with promise? That's why when they were thrown into the fiery furnace it was a surprise for all but these three when God showed up. For you see their belief in their God was stronger than their fear of death ( forget fear of man; they didn't have it!) Jesus himself covered the bodies of the boys with  his fireproof presence and they exited the furnace radiant and glorious as if God himself touched their faces. That's exactly what He did! ( Read the book of Daniel Chapter 3 for reference)

These people all had GREAT Faith! Even in the midnight hour they saw the glory of God.


That is what God wants for you. These people had God's heart and attention. He used them for a purpose bigger than themselves and showed Himself mighty in their lives.

I want that attention from God. I want to be used for a greater purpose. I want to be spoiled by His love. I want God to call me "his baby". I want to be endeared by Him, cradled by Him. I want Him to never let me go. I want to feel like a gem in Yahweh's eyes. 

So the Holy Spirit revealed to me in five steps how to enhance that affection.


Step 1 : Ask for wisdom. In order to feel a stirring of love in our hearts we have to hear and recognize the voice of God. Can you tell the difference between your voice and God's voice? God's voice has to be clear and in order to hear with the heart (unlike natural ears our spiritual ones are located in our hearts) it must be unplugged. God gives wisdom freely. Ask for it, its free!
"Wisdom calls aloud in the street she raises her voice in the public squares."
Tune out the other voices that annoy you and unplug your heart.
Say "God I need your wisdom. I ask you to help me block out the things that are going to distract me from hearing your voice. Speak to my heart so that I can listen and obey."



Step 2 :When we find peace rest in it. After a daily dose of wisdom from God you are not going to feel anxious, upset, troubled but the complete opposite. It's a lovely feeling to know God just gave you a Rhema (word) from heaven. It feels intimate, private, sweet. The sweetness brings peace. We ruin the moment by allowing natural things to erase the feeling; like fussing about paying the bills,  worrying about tomorrow, people pleasing. Arguments with people make us forget the time we had with God. People in general make us forget what God has spoken in our lives! Making people the center of our focus causes us to forget to spend time with the "center of it all." God is the granter of peace, He is the restorer of peace so why do we run to counselors, therapists and our friends to give us something He has already given us. Hold on to peace and don't let it slip away.




Step 3 : Don't play with fear; let it go. Once you have constant peace fear vanishes like a cheesy magician "out of sight". Fear has to be released when nothing can send you jumping through hoops anymore. You are cool as a cucumber now, what's up? Your answer to everything is" no worries it's in my Father's hands." You are in direct relationship with the King of Kings. He holds the highest office in the universe what are you afraid of?? Go to your Father! Once the enemy realizes that all his scare tactics don't work on you; guess what? He is going to run away from you! The devil will be afraid of you! That impresses Almighty God. He sees you working in the power he has given you. He cherishes and rewards you for your fearless attitude. He says, "What a jewel____is! _______ is a treasure I hold in my hands, high and lifted up because he/she works FEARLESSLY. "




Step 4 : Humble yourself before God's mighty hand and he will lift you up in DUE time. Cast all your anxiety on him because He CARES for you." 1 Peter 5 : 6&7
The key word is HUMBLE. We, as God's messengers, must be humble. We must never take credit for what he has done. Pride can not live with humility, if pride has rented out a room in your house I'm pretty sure he will insult humility with his stink attitude and gigantic head! Humility will jump out of the window! No, they don't make awesome roommates so don't try to hook them up. Always remember to be humble. Our King, Jesus was humble when He didn't have to be why should we be any different? We are the examples for the world, we shouldn't make heads turn with our bragging, our know it all attitude, or from telling someone where they can shove it! Remember God fights all of our battles we don't have to argue in the street or get puffed up because someone forgot to mention us in his/her speech. Highlighter: IF no one else sees your efforts God sees it. He rewards the best!




Step 5 : Shine for God and God Alone. Don't forget why you are here. You are supposed to be a star chosen by God, distinctive and revealing. You prepare the way for others to come. That is not a small job that IS A BIG DEAL. When you know from the outlining of your heart to the center that you are on a divine assignment nothing will depress you. Even in the darkest times you still find a reason to smile, during a grieving season still find a reason to be grateful. God sees you, he knows you and your pain like no other in the universe. He wants to comfort you. He wants to celebrate you, laugh with you! ( yeah God laughs)




He wants to prepare a feast for you, He wants to crown you, He wants to cleanse and purify your soul everyday. He wants to speak to you alone when you are dreaming, He wants to pat you on the back and say "Job well done my daughter/son keep going" now! You don't have to wait for heaven He wants to bless you on Earth. He wants to whisper His promises by night and fulfill them by day. He wants to spoil you with His caresses, His gentle guidance, His time alone with you. He wants to spoil you like an only child.

He is the only parent that can spread Himself  so far to meet the needs of endless children. How wonderful is He! Do you desire Him?

You Must Desire Him. He can't do it without your input. He gives us free will and He won't twist your arm. (My God is too cool for that ;))  The desire must be there, alive, from within. You must desire to spend time with the Maker of Heaven, Earth and You. You must make the appointments and trust that He will show up.

 Do you desire Him? Is He your first, your last, your everything?
(didn't mean to reference Barry White)



Then prepare to be spoiled by God.












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